Monday, August 22, 2011

Explanation Of The Permissible Lying Between The Husband And Wife

On the authority of Umm Kulthoom bint Uqbah (may Allaah be pleased with her) that the Messenger of Allaah (sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam) allowed lying in three circumstances:
"In war, bringing about harmony between two people, and in the statement of the man to his wife."
(Musnad of Imaam Ahmad # 27278, Declared authentic by Imaam Al-Albaani in Silsilah Al-Ahaadeeth As-Saheehah # 535)

Imaam An-Nawawee (may Allaah have mercy upon him) stated in his explanation in Saheeh Muslim:

"As for him lying to his wife and her lying to him, what's intended is the out display of love and promise of that which is not binding or that which is similar to that. As for deception/betrayal in preventing that which is upon him (to fulfill) or upon her (to fulfill) or taking that which is not rightfully his or hers, then this is prohibited according to the consensus of the scholars and Allaah. The Most High, knows best." (16/158)

Al-Haafith Ibn Hajr (may Allaah have mercy upon him) stated in Fathul-Baari:

"The scholars are in agreement that what is intended by lying here in relation to the right of the woman and the man is that it is only in that which doesn't remove the rights that are upon him or her, or taking that which isn't rightfully his or hers." (5/300)

Al-Muhaddith Al-Imaam Al-Albaani (may have mercy upon him) stated: 

"I say that it is not from the permissible lying that he promises her something which he doesn't want to fulfill for her. Nor, is it that he informs her that he brought something for her for a certain price, more than what the price really is in order to please her. That's because it may become known to her (what the actual price is) and as a result of that she begins to have bad thoughts about her husband. And that is from corruption and not bringing about harmony." (From the speech of the Shaykh in Silsilah Al-Ahaadeeth As-Saheehah V. 1 # 498)

Sisters Upon Al-Istiqaamah